[Advice for a friend] CS and Reconciliation with a partner

[Enchanted]

My gf has called me in tears this afternoon, she has just reconciled with her DH and he has just moved back in with her over the weekend.
She called C'link to advise of the changes and that was all fine but when she called CS they said yep no worries but we need to speak with your DH. They asked for a number to contact him on to confirm what she was saying but her DH doesn't have a mobile phone at the moment. So the CS lady asked for him to call them to finalise it all. He got home and she told him what he needed to do and refused point blank to call them Reckons that she should have been able to do it all and is refusing to call them.

This is part of the reason they separated, he won't take responsibility for things or address issues etc. So the poor thing doesn't know what to do?! She doesn't exactly want to call CS back and say "Umm, he's a nob and is refusing to call you".

Does anyone know if they have to speak with her other half or what she can do?! I thought that it would have been easy for her to close the case. I know he didn't speak with them when they separated, apparently they sent him a number of letters and never responded. He always paid what he needed to etc but far out. What a way to start again

[black_rose]

Your poor friend! Why wouldn't he want to talk to them so he doesn't have to pay? All I can suggest is she calls when he is around and then just hands the phone over.

[emc2]

I think she should leave it with him and see what happens. It is his responsibility.

If it wasn't this issue, I would bet he'd do it over something else.

[diannescruffy]

Doesn't sound like there is much she can do if he wont call them.

Regards,
Dianne

[Enchanted]

I'm not sure what his deal is.
They had a private agreement so CS wont chase up his payments as far as I know. She just wants everything finalised so they can put it all behind them. I guess she could always leave the case open if he won't call?! The C'link payments will be adjusted as they should.
Poor thing, not fair

[emc2]

It depends on how much the amount of the CS assessment is affecting her Family Tax Benefit.

But if he was only paying a minimal amount, I think even the CSA put the claim on hold for six months, after people get back together, before closing it off completely? Or that is recommended.

Really to me it does sound like another red flag in the relationship..hopefully I am wrong.